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I have also just arrived in Adelaide and is feeling the same way as you. I am gay and also hope to look for friends and a meaningful connection with a special one.
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Just Sara Champion Alumni. Hi and welcome Mitch; You must be feeling quite frustrated with your situation atm to come to BB for help. The dating scene can be somewhat unpleasant for those who're a bit reserved like me Joining a club that suits your interests could be a good place to start. What about travel? There are groups who travel together nationally as well as overseas. Kind thoughts; Sez. Hi Sez, Thank you for your response.
Thanks again for reading me. Take care of yourself. Sorry, I just reread what happened to you and I saw "the hard way". I am so sorry again. Thankyou for your empathy too. Live, learn and grow Good luck xo. Hey Mitch, I have also just arrived in Adelaide and is feeling the same way as you. Looking forward to your reply soon.
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A bit of sass is fine now and then, but don't be a dick. See also: Rule 1. Why is gay dating so difficult? I'm 27 and ive come to find the gay dating scene to be a nightmare and next to impossible. It's like almost become not even worth the hassle for me. Idk what it is but it's like so many gay guys are afraid to commit to anything, are self absorbed and all about instant gratification. A third of the guys won't even acknowledge u on these dating sites, the other third acknowledge u but string u along and never commit to meeting. Or they're all in open relationships and want to see other people.
If your in love why see other people? Also, many have these ridiculous criteria that half of them don't even meet and if u don't fit into the description of this picture perfect ideal image they can't be bothered.
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Granted, this all occurs within the straight community too but it's seems way worse in the gay community. I've noticed it seems that many gay guys have this entitlement attitude that like because gays were discriminated against for so many years that now society owes them something and they are entitled to act however they please, even at the disregard for others. Oh and btw, I know people are going to say I'm the problem in all these instances; just know that I've done a lot of self reflecting and have not acted in ways that would be pushing guy away or cause them to act like this.
It's tough. Or maybe just elderly people. I dunno. I'm a white haired old coot, and I scratch my head in wonderment at you youngsters. I see everything you are talking about, and I know it is most real, and I genuinely grieve for you. It is a strange paradox that just as you youngsters come into all your freedom, and the right to marriage, etc, the entire gay community dissolves for lack of attention. There was so much beauty in the gay community that it grieves me to see all the gaytowns dissolve, and the pubs close, and the charities die for lack of attendance.
When I was your age they were still raiding our pubs and taking us to jail for having a beer with our friends. Yet in that harsh time everyone had a best buddy, a spread of friends, and every gay guy I have known had experienced or was experiencing a long term love affair. I have spent over forty years in three committed relationships. It used to be as simple as, "I like you, you like me, let's get this together! Gays are in the grip of a rampant and pervasive narcissism.
I hope we snap out of it while there is still the basis of a community intact.
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It's just ironic that as a community who demands so much respect and acceptance from other, we can't even accept or acknowledge our own half the time. You are absolutely correct, of course. For example, in my situation, I am from a small city on the south coast of England. There is nowhere I can go to meet men. I don't want to just meet any man, I want to make friends with gay people I actually get along with.
Perhaps the gay communitiy is so spread out because we lack a unifying factor for our generation. It is somewhat uknown territory for us, to be so accepted by scoeity even though lots of prejudice remains in certain quarters.
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I came from a comparable zone in the United States. The funny thing is this, we are everywhere. If you can access a gay mate or two you will usually tap into the friendship network, and be off to the races. I know it is a stereotype, but it is true that as a group we are often involved with all artistic pursuits. We also tend to be involved in the support roles around local churches and their charities. The choir, etc. Sometimes visiting and volunteering with such activities will open doors into the local gay underground.